Teach the Whys

“I kept six honest serving-men (They taught me all I know);Their names are What and Why and When And How and Where and Who.”– Rudyard Kipling – As we teach morals, it’s best to tell children reasons for why the behavior or attitude is a poor moral choice or a wise one. When I was […]

Give Specific Feedback

“The object of teaching a child is to enable him to get along without his teacher.” – Elbert Hubbard – When I was taking classes for a Master’s Degree in writing, I was mentored each semester by a different award-winning author. Each one coached me on my writing and critiqued my manuscripts. One semester, my […]

Teach the Importance of Small Acts

“Sow a thought and you reap an act; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.” – Charles Reade – In his book The Road to Character, David Brooks wrote, “You become more disciplined, considerate, and loving through a […]

Give Kids an Emotion Vocabulary

“It’s not easy to learn to whistleif there’s no one to show you how.”– Janusz Korczak, King Matt the First – Remember that important milestone in moral development called perspective-taking? It enables us to see from another person’s point of view, to understand that they are afraid or frustrated or overjoyed or worried. Perspective-taking is […]

Have Rules and Communicate Them

“If a thing is right, it can be done, and if it is wrong, it can be done without; and a good man will find a way.” – Anna Sewell, Black Beauty – Most new parents have never taken child development courses, and many have never spent much time with children. Sunday school teachers are […]

Adolescence: Thirteen to Twenty

Identity Formation vs. Identity Confusion “[T]he adolescent period of life is in reality the one with the most power for courage and creativity.” – Daniel J. Siegel – As teens mature year by year, they leave the awkwardness of the tween stage and enter young adulthood. This is the last stage of what began in […]